And So It Begins

I could just cry.

My Nina already has.

So has Spin – which was not what I expected. I was prepared for a certain thirteen-year-old boy to feel Spin’s hands around his neck for the unpardonable offense of crushing on his baby.

Spencer’s mom approached me last week at VBS and told me that her son has a major thing for my daughter. She told me his exact words were, “Mom, she’s so beautiful.”

Yah – well that wasn’t the way he told it to Nina’s girlfriend (insert horrible flashback to junior high here). The version Allison got was, “She’s so hot.”

We got home from church and in a shaky voice, Nina said, “Mom – we have to talk.” and promptly burst into tears. She was all nervous and excited and disappointed that she has to wait three whole years to date. The injustice, right?

I can’t quite figure out what is unreasonable about not being able to date at thirteen years old, but whatever. I guess, I’m a bad mom. I’m okay with that.

The next morning, though, she was positively glowing, with a dreamy look in her eye, a newfound confidence and a singular frame of reference.

Spencer.

For the record, I’ve been granted permission to blog this – on the condition that I let Nina read it. (The post, not the blog. I showed her my illustrations of the damn dogs and while she had tears streaming down her face with laughter, she was quite stern with me about my language. With as much authority as I could muster, I explained that as an adult, I possess the maturity to discern the appropriate use of language and the use of the word “damn” as it relates to the dogs was perfectly executed, thank you very much.)

Back to the point.

After agreeing to being blogged, Nina gushed, “But there’s so much more to it, Mom” – and spuh-illed all that she was aware of having led up to this point.

It was all “Spencer-this” and “Spencer-that. And “Nick-who?”

NICK JONAS, NINA. YOUR FUTURE HUSBAND. REMEMBER HIM??? (Oh, please remember him…. he was so much safer.)

Sure, Mom. Blog it. Because the more we can say, write, read or think about Spencer, the better. Right?

I don’t know. The jury is still out on Spencer.

He seems to have already asked Allison out – she politely declined. And apparently, he has had several girlfriends already – the most recent of which he “broke up with” so he could “ask Nina out”.

Out where?! is my question. Because there will be NO going out any where, any time, any how.

I asked her if his “history with girls” bothered her at all. Asked her what Allison’s opinion of him is. Asked her what she would think if he breaks up with her as soon as he sees the next pretty face he thinks he might want to “go out with”.

She admitted it bothers her a little and I launched into my spiel about guarding her heart carefully, because a boy who “needs” a girlfriend will quite likely break it.

I think all she heard was, “blah blah blah break your heart, Nina. Blah blah blah.”, because the response I got was a soft (and rather dramatic), “It already is, Mom.”

Broken??? Wait, what?

“Your heart is already broken, Nina? Why?”

“Because you’re such unreasonable parents to not let me date yet that I have to say no when he asks me out.”

Yes, Nina, you do, for reasons that have already made themselves abundantly clear.

The next night before VBS, Spencer asked me if he could sit with us for dinner at the church. He sat and conversed quite politely with us, and seemed like a very nice young man – but Spin was clearly less than impressed. He claimed he didn’t have an appetite and busied himself with his Blackberry. Wimp.

Later that night, Nina spoke with him about “just being friends” and “getting to know each other”. I guess he was “totally cool” with it…..

But I’m wondering how quickly he was trying to get his old girlfriend back.